topi berfikir aku

there are times when it’s far easier to look at someone and see their flaws instead of good ones. do you ever wonder why? of course not. we just do. that doesn’t mean you do it, consciously or not, to everyone you meet or you know. it happens when people get closer. i don’t think it is always harmful. sometimes it is clear because what it is to them makes us part of it too so we wouldn’t want anything bad, negative, hurtful happened to them. get it? but who are you to determine what’s best for another? your principles are most probably not the same as mine. but we still do it nevertheless.

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because being human makes us seek acceptance and comfort that most people gain by finding common ground, whether if it’s in making every day decision or taking chances in life for the future. no matter how fruitless and disappointing, we still sow seeds of hope that the person may understand our distress and concern thus care enough to change. but sometimes i find it’s refreshing that people doesn’t expect this or that from me.

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because we can’t stand other people failures or achievements. you are determined to follow the course of the greater good. selfishness that helps to create soft barrier around your grief, bubble, worries. when others don’t stray away from your chosen path, you are calm, relieved. save people, save me. do you have a halo over your head?

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because you just can’t surrender. lie down and play dead? pfft! when one starts with promises, others give commitment and desire for something blissful or successful. a win-win situation. if you can stand living life doing what you’re doing and others take the fall for it, you’re one ignorant fella. or maybe delusional. so we are back to the process of judging again. but doesn’t everyone deserves the best? doesn’t i?

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you pick. either one, i think, we will lose.